4 Reasons We Won’t Be Joining HSLDA

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I have to admit that writing this post makes me very nervous. In many homeschooling circles/groups, to question HSLDA or to say anything negative about them is equal to heresy. HSLDA always has the best interests of homeschoolers at heart – right? Well, I disagree. And in many groups, when people come in and are new to homeschooling and they want to know where they start, often times, the first comment is referring them to HSLDA. And if it’s not the first comment, it’s within the top five. Of course, you need to make the best decision for your family, but in this post, I’m going to lay out the reasons that my family won’t be joining HSLDA.

But I suppose before I do that I should back up a bit and explain what HSLDA is, in case you are not familiar with them. HSLDA stands for Homeschool Legal Defense Association. They are a homeschool advocacy group. They state their mission as, “to bring together a large number of homeschooling families so that each can have a low-cost method of obtaining quality legal defense.”

So now that that’s out of the way, let’s jump in.

4 Reasons We Won't Be Joining HSLDA

I disagree with HSLDA’s fear mongering techniques.

I think that the reason that HSLDA is so popular is that they have really used fear to sell their product. I have even seen people who say, well, I don’t agree with a lot of what they do, but better safe than sorry. It’s viewed as a protection from the overreach of the government. Protection that HSLDA has convinced homeschoolers they need. Then those homeschoolers convince other newbie homeschoolers they need it. And so on and so forth.

And like I said in my opening paragraph, HSLDA is suggested to new homeschoolers extremely frequently. So, in the beginning, I too signed up for their newsletter. It was the best thing to do right? Well, if you’ve ever seen the inbox of my old e-mail (which at the time of this writing has over 230,000 unread e-mails – no, not a typo), you know that I rarely deleted e-mails.  And I also rarely unsubscribed from things.

So, this has left me a treasure trove of HSLDA e-mails from which to draw from to help describe their fear mongering techniques. They frequently use hosilte/aggressive words to describe school or government officials. Words like threatened or targets come up over and over again. I’m not there and I can’t say that they didn’t threaten. However, when it’s used in many instances, it starts to look like a pattern. Often times the cases they handle are misunderstandings between school officials and what’s actually required of the law and these are frequently cleared up with a letter or a conversation. Yet, HLSDA frequently continues to paint these interactions as malicious on the part of school officials. As if all school officials are out to get your children. It does sometimes happen that school officials overreach and ask for more information than is required by law, but saying things like “a chilling letter” and “dangerous education regulations” set a tone of fear and the bad guy boogeyman lurking in the closet.

If there’s a real problem, I will care about it. I’m the kind of person who does. But I don’t appreciate being made to feel like there’s a problem with scary fear mongering language. It’s not how I roll.

Your money does not guarantee help.

HSLDA takes a fee every year of (at the time of this writing), $120 or $1000 for a lifetime membership. I see this talked about in homeschooling groups as a for sure thing. That if you ever get into any legal trouble, that HSLDA will help as long as you’ve been paying the fee. It’s treated as legal insurance, even though they are definitely not. And many homeschoolers will say they have them “just in case” and “better safe than sorry.” However, they can refuse the case of anyone they choose. As it says on their website, “we cannot guarantee representation in every case.” And while they are just anecdotes, I’ve heard many stories of them doing just that. Especially for secular homeschoolers, even though they say they accept all faiths.

Additionally, what you may not know is that when you sign up, you are agreeing to keep records. This is to help in your legal defense, which is, of course, not a bad thing. I keep records and so do many others. But many states do not require record keeping, so in some ways, they are putting an extra burden on you. The irony of requiring you to keep records when many of their actions against the government are keeping the government from looking at those records is not lost on me.

I don’t always agree with who they help.

Additionally, as 501(c)(4), they are allowed to endorse candidates and campaign politically. I don’t want to send my money to them not knowing what candidates they will endorse or put money behind or what laws they will lobby for. Just like I investigate the other organizations I donate to, I would consider any payment to HSLDA to also be a donation of sorts. Even though they say member dues do not go to fund that, that is still their tax status and reality. They are a conservative organization – there is no doubt* about that – and anyone who has known me for any length of time knows that I identify politically as a moderate/independent and not a conservative.

I don’t agree with what they did in the case of the Romeikes. (I almost wrote a blog post about this back when it happened, but couldn’t express what I wanted to say well enough). I believe that the Romeike family had other options. They could have immigrated within the EU to another member state where homeschooling is legal and because they are members of the EU, immigrating between countries, from my understanding, is easier. However, I believe that HSLDA chose to encourage them to come to the United States because they were trying to set up a court case to prove that homeschooling should be a human right. They were using this family as pawns, I believe, and I was not okay with that. If I paid dues, my money would have been used to help support that court case.

I also disagreed with their handling of the Cressy case. In this, they painted the state government in New York as being completely out of line. However, the Cressys failed to file their homeschooling paperwork for over seven years. Now, you can argue about whether or not the law in New York is too restrictive. I don’t feel it is, but some people do. Either way, as long as that law is in place, it needs to be followed. Say you didn’t do your taxes for 7 years and the IRS came after you. Would the IRS be in the wrong or would you be in the wrong? You would be, of course. I don’t want my money to be used to support people who were breaking the law. It feels like a slap in the face when I work so carefully to follow the law. I would say that it wouldn’t have been so aggravating to me if they hadn’t painted the government as being so atrocious. The government was doing their job.

Lastly, while I will say, first and foremost, not all HSLDA members are child abusers, they have defended some in court. I will tell you that this paragraph contains some disturbing accounts of child abuse. There’s the parents who were later convicted of child abuse after their children suffered multiple broken bones (including a fractured spine and skull) and failed to seek medical attention for them, among other things, – their HSLDA affiliated lawyer said they were just a good Christian family being persecuted. They defended the right for another family to homeschool after 5 children died in their care. At least two of those deaths were ruled homicides. This includes their six-year-old daughter who had bleach poured on her and then they never sought medical care for her. They successfully won the right for this family to keep homeschooling.

While, like I said, not all HSLDA members are abusing their children, if I paid into HSLDA, those funds are used to defend other homeschoolers. I don’t get to pick and choose which people my funds are used to help. I want to stress again that not all of the families they defend are child abusers. However, when they are, I can’t untangle my money from that after it’s gone from them. And I don’t want my money being used for that.

(Side note: I find, quite frequently, that whenever it comes out that CPS removed children from a homeschool family, it is often assumed that CPS is in the wrong and that, of course, they are a good homeschool family and CPS is just out to get homeschoolers. I remember a case in the last few years where several children were taken from a homeschool family and everyone was railing on CPS as the bad guys, but later it came out that they were living in basically a shack that only had walls on three sides and was completely open to the elements on the third side and if I recall correctly, there was no clean running water either. I remember listening to an interview with the mom that she posted online to try and prove how the police were persecuting them. I remember thinking, it really sounds like she is trying to bait the cop into shooting her. (I can’t find this interview again at this time.) This CPS and homeschoolers thing deserves a whole separate post which I will write some day). 

I trust my state organization more.

For a while, HSLDA had incorrect information on their website about how to homeschool legally in Wisconsin. They kept this information up for quite some time. This was despite being contacted by local state organizations here on the ground in Wisconsin. Eventually, they did change this. Regardless, I know our local advocacy group has a clean record. Furthermore, they live here and have a much better understanding of Wisconsin. Plus, they have a bigger investment here in a way that only other people who are homeschooling here can have. It is in their best interests to be honest and transparent because they also homeschool their children here. WPA did a lot of work in the state of Wisconsin and if I ever had trouble, I would turn to them. They’ve earned my trust.

Bottom line, HSLDA does not speak for me as a homeschooler. That is the main reason why I will not let them put my money to work for their agenda. Writing this post has made me nervous, however, like my vaccination post, I feel that there are not enough voices in the homeschool world speaking for those who are choosing to opt out. I am opting out of HSLDA and I will stand behind that.

Do you feel HSLDA provides a valuable service to homeschoolers? Or do you feel like me that this is an organization not worth giving your money too? 

*This article linked in this sentence is also a good article containing well-thought out criticisms of HSLDA.

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Photo by Faustlawmarketing at Morguefile.com, text added by me. 

How I Meal Plan

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I feel like at this point I’ve explained how I meal plan to more than one person, so I thought I might write a blog post about it. How I meal plan is like sort of how other people plan, but also sort of my own style. So, here is my meal planning “system” I guess you might call it.

I don’t know how many of you know this, but cooking is not my strong suit. I knew how to do very basic things when we were first married, but harder things intimidated me and we were eating a lot of pre-packaged foods because I could follow the instructions on a frozen pizza or a box of mac n cheese.

Well, especially when Dominic was born, I really wanted us to eat more variety and healthier. But I needed to teach myself to cook. I figured if I can follow the instructions on a box, surely I can follow a recipe.

So my menu planning was sort of designed with this in mind. It was designed for me to be able to learn new recipes. And also because, if I don’t meal plan, there tends to be a lot of whiny (from me) at dinner time about not knowing what to cook or eat. I needed to decide everything ahead of time for the week, when I wasn’t stressed and tired. This removes a lot of the thinking element from the day to day decisions about eating.

So what I did first was sit down and write out all the main dishes/lunch/dinner meals I could think of as well as all the breakfast meals I could think of. It even includes obvious things like cereal. Because I didn’t want to have to reinvent the list all over again every week. And if I have to think of half of it because those are the “obvious” things, that’s extra mental work I have to do. By the way, everything on the list I can cook from memory, without following instructions or with very minimal instructions. Example, when I added French Fry Onion Chicken to my main dish list – a new meal that I had tried – I wrote down the time it took in the oven and the temperature of the oven because those are the parts I’m likely to forget, but I know all the ingredients and steps by heart or they come with directions (yes, we still eat frozen pizzas). For me, that’s what it takes to make it on my list because I want to spend my thinking energy when I cook on the new recipes, which I’ll talk about in a second.

So, I decided that in order to teach myself how to cook, I would try a certain number of new recipes every week.

By now, I have my master lists and I have my new recipe sources. My main recipe sources are cookbooks, magazines, free Kindle cookbooks, and Pinterest. So what I do first is I write down the days of the week along with a spot for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. If you don’t want to do this, you can buy pads with tear off sheets (I’ve found these in the Target dollar spot before and I’m sure they are in other places as well) or there are tons of printable ones out there for free as well. You can find them with or without a grocery shopping list. I like it without a grocery shopping list because I find my grocery shopping list takes a lot of abuse.

Then, I fill in whatever new recipes I want to try, whether they are breakfast or dinner recipes or what have you. Then, with whatever blanks I have left, I fill in recipes from my master lists. This way I know that I can focus all of my cooking energies on the new recipes and the rest of the time the cooking is relatively easy.

And you can definitely tweak this plan if you want to do it around what’s on sale. It can also be tweaked for any special dietary concerns that you have. This is the biggest advantage to building it from the ground up. It’s pretty flexible and that’s why it works for me. I’ve been meal planning this way for . . . I’m not sure how long but at least 3 years. Every weekend, this is what I do. Oh and as far as creating my grocery list, I do that as I go along. Every time I write a meal down on the menu plan, I immediately check what we need. Then I immediately write down the ingredients on my list. If I don’t do it immediately, I find I forget things.

I took a picture so you guys can sort of see an example. Ignore the fact that I spilled something on the breakfast list once upon a time. Keeping it real haha! I do rewrite these master lists occasionally if they change substantially or they get beat up a lot.

Meal Plan

Anyways, I hope this helps! That’s how I meal plan.

Do you meal plan? What have you found to work for you? 

Should You Use a Home Doppler During Pregnancy?

Should you use a home doppler in pregnancy? Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor or a doctor of any kind. If you are pregnant, I encourage you to discuss home doppler use with your care provider if you have questions. And, happy pregnancy! 

The use of home dopplers has swelled in recent year. I frequently see people asking about them in my Facebook groups or selling them. If you do a search for them, you return many brands to buy. But, is this new trend helpful or even safe?

Home doppler use has grown in recent years. For many women, early appointments are far and few between. For others, a fear of miscarriage or stillbirth is what persuades them to rent or buy a home doppler. But is there any evidence that they are helpful? Anecdotally, women report to other women that they eased their anxiety. But are they helpful?

The short answer? No. At best, a home doppler can provide reassurance that baby is okay. But, on the flip side of that, since you are not a trained medical provider, the reassurance could be a false reassurance. And the home doppler itself does not do anything to prevent miscarriage or stillbirth. In fact, if you choose not to seek medical help based on a false reassurance, it can actually be extremely dangerous. Like UK Charity Kicks Count points out, if someone collapsed in the street, would you think they were okay just because you could feel a pulse? Or would you call for help? But frequently, women hear a heartbeat and are reassured enough to think that there’s no danger.

One such case was recorded in the peer-reviewed journal The BMJ (British Medical Journal). You can read it here, but they discuss the sad case of an unexplained stillbirth where the woman presented three days after she had felt decreased movement but had convinced herself that it was fine due to detecting a “fetal heartbeat” which may actually have been placental blood flow or her own heartbeat. They concluded, “Obstetric services need to educate expectant mothers about the limitations and the potentially fatal consequences of untrained use of fetal heart monitors and to present clear guidance about when to seek medical review.”

Of course, the devices are essentially same as the doppler doctors use. And I don’t write this post because I think that doppler waves are in any way dangerous. Just that misuse of this technology can cause anxiety and provide false reassurances. Those false reassurances can lead to not seeking help from a qualified medical professional in time. Ultrasound and dopplers are considered some of the safest technology out there. So the risks they pose are not inherent, but instead, the risks that they pose come from their misuse. That and, while we believe they are safe now, we can not entirely rule out that later we may find more info. I am not trying to be all dopplers and ultrasounds are terrible for you. I truly do not believe that. Just that it is often a common pattern that later on we find out more info about something we previously thought was safe. This is why limiting ultrasound and doppler use to what is necessary medically is important. When it’s medically necessary the benefits outweigh the risks. However, in the case of home use, the benefits, in my opinion, do not outweigh the risks.

The FDA has even warned against them (and keepsake ultrasounds – another post for another day, perhaps?). It’s not that I see the FDA as the be all and end all. However, I do think their concerns, in this case, are legitimate. To quote,

“When the product is purchased over the counter and used without consultation with a health care professional taking care of the pregnant woman, there is no oversight of how the device is used. Also, there is little or no medical benefit expected from the exposure,” Vaezy says. “Furthermore, the number of sessions or the length of a session in scanning a fetus is uncontrolled, and that increases the potential for harm to the fetus and eventually the mother.”

And Kicks Count (mentioned above) actually believes that such devices should be banned and quite frankly, I do as well. I see this as another way that manufacturers choose to prey on women who have reasonable anxieties about childbirth and pregnancy. Instead of offering them evidence based support, they push a product that costs money and can not help in the long run. Similarly to how makers of infant cardio-respiratory monitors prey on parents’ fears of SIDS and offer monitors that can not help or prevent SIDS and encourage risky behavior.*

Unfortunately, there are too many moms who feel that their own use of a home doppler contributed to not seeking help in time. I admire their courage because it does take courage to admit that you made a mistake. It’s impossible to tell if acting earlier would have changed the outcome. However, they have to live with that what if for the rest of their life.

The bottom line is, dopplers are a medical device. Without proper training in not only using the Doppler but how to interpret the results and what’s worrying and what’s not, you are putting you and your baby at risk. A better alternative if you are worried is to discuss with your care provider. Ask them what you should look for and what a good course of action would be. That money can definitely be better spent elsewhere.

Did you use a doppler during pregnancy? If so, how do you feel about the concerns I’ve raised here? 

*I don’t think I’ve done a blog post on this, but if you want to hear more of my thoughts on cardio-respiratory monitors like the Snuza, Owlet, etc, you can check out this episode of the podcast I co-host at Precious Little Sleep. 

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I Homeschool, But I’m Not Super Human

I Homeschool But I'm Not Super Human

                        Do you see me among these superheroes? No? It’s because I’m not one.

Yup, that’s right. I don’t homeschool because I’m super human and homeschooling hasn’t given me super human patience either.

Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, well duh! You homeschool, you weren’t bitten by a radioactive spider. However, I’m writing this post today because I often get comments like, “I could never homeschool, I’m not xyz enough.” Usually patient, but sometimes other things as well.

But let me let you in on a little secret. I do not have some super patience skills. I am not some superhuman human or parent. No, I’m just an ordinary parent. I’m just like the rest of you. I have my parenting struggles. I have my bad days. My kids can be a handful and some days I feel like why go to the zoo when you already live in one.

Now, I don’t write this post to make you feel like you should be homeschooling, because I don’t believe that at all.* This is not to say that I don’t think that you could homeschool, just that I don’t feel like you have to homeschool if it’s not the right fit for you family.

I’m just writing this post because I don’t want to be put on some pedestal. For one, that’s an awful lot of pressure to put on myself and I don’t do well under those circumstances. For two, because I’m really much more ordinary than people think. For three, I don’t want people to think I’m someone I’m not.**

So, if I’m not superhuman, why do I homeschool anyways? Because it’s what Nick and I feel is best for our family. I find that all parents have the remarkable ability to do hard things when it’s what they feel best for their children. Parenting is a hard thing and every day, we all find ways to get through it and to raise humans who are pretty awesome. We put aside the things that we think limit us and do the hard things because we want our children to grow up to be decent human beings. We all do that, whether or not we homeschool.

So I’m not any better or any more because we homeschool. I haven’t been dosed with extra patience or born with extra arms (though that would be handy). I’m just an ordinary mom. And that’s perfectly okay with me.

Do you ever feel like you’ve been put on a pedestal because of something you do? Do you ever look at other moms and think they must be super human because of the things they manage to do that you don’t? 

*I feel like I’m always saying that another post is coming soon, but another post is coming soon on that subject. I just have a lot of ideas guys. 

**I don’t think you can really say for two and for three like that, but I said it anyway. 

Haba Palette of Pegs Review

Haba Palette of Pegs collage

Disclaimer: I received this product free of charge from Timberdoodle in exchange for my honest review. As always, you can expect me to be truthful and honest here on my blog.

I am so excited today to bring you our review of Haba’s Palette of Pegs. Haba’s Palette of Pegs, as you can see from the pictures, is a bright and colorful open ended STEM focused toy aimed at kids ages 2-6.

When I first took this out, I wasn’t really sure what to expect. Unlike some things, it didn’t come with a use of suggestions or anything. This may surprise some of you, but I feel better with instructions.

Haba Palette of Pegs

But that’s kind of silly because my kids never fail to find creative ways to use things, far beyond what I could come up with. And using the Palette of Pegs was no exception to that.

When we started out, I just wanted to work on naming the colors. My youngest, Allen, is two, and knows the names of his colors. However, he still has a hard time accurately identifying what color things are. I don’t really like flash cards at Allen’s age or anything really heavy handed, so an activity like this is great as it gives us a natural way into talking about colors. “I see you have the red peg.” or “What color is that one?” This is also great because there are a lot of near shades which make it more challenging. I can’t take credit for that. My friend Janet pointed it out to me when she was visiting. 

Allen loved it. He wanted to play a game with it, so he made up a game where we would take turns matching the rings to the pegs of the same color. We played once with the pegs in the order they came in. Then, I took them all out and mixed them up to be in more random order to make it a little bit harder.

What surprised me the most was how interested Dominic (5) was in this. I know that he is within the age range for it, but I didn’t think he would be that interested in it. However, he found lots of interesting ways to use it. He figured out that if he put a peg in the middle of two rings, for example, he could roll it. He also discovered he could stack them into a tower – which is trickier than it looks. This is where some of the STEM skills come in as it can encourage that outside of the box thinking and building.

Haba Palette of PegsOverall, I think Palette of Pegs is really great! I’m planning on leaving this out for my kids to work with. I do better with instructions; however, I appreciate open ended toys for my kids to encourage their creativity. I also appreciate that it feels like a lot of care went into designing and making this. The paint is solvent free – which is great if you have a kid that still puts stuff in their mouth. (Allen still does way more than I would want lol). The bottom of the board has pieces on the corner to keep it from sliding around. That is great because the last thing that you want is for it to slide around. Sliding around can frustrate kids and ruin their concentration. But this does not slide! All in all, a quality product, but I would expect no less from Haba and Timberdoodle.

What is your favorite Haba toy? Do you have Palette of Pegs? What other color matching activities do you enjoy? 

How Sleep Training Worked for Us

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As I wrote about previously, when I started parenting I very much fell into attachment parenting. You can read more about it there, but if you read it already or don’t want to read it, the long and the short of it was that I had become convinced that it was the only way to raise good kids and that doing anything else would be a failure. So how does someone who is very much AP (attachment parenting in internet speak) go from that to someone who used sleep training methods?

When I had a dream sleeper – and I mean a dream sleeper – it was very easy to be an attachment parent. Attachment parenting is easy, I thought, why doesn’t everyone do it? Of course, my son was sleeping 9 hours through the night at 2 weeks old and could be put down to sleep anywhere (and I mean anywhere – there are pictures of him sleeping on an ottoman at a retreat and on a table at my friend’s wedding – carefully supervised with me right there so he didn’t roll off of course). In my naivety of being a first-time parent, I credited this to my awesome attachment parenting skills. People who used sleep training just don’t know what they are doing, my ultra smug self thought. (I regret thinking this and being so smug. Grace and learning, right?)

Oh, I could not have been more wrong! It is humbling to write this on my blog for who knows (and everyone) to read, but I was so very wrong. I would come to discover that this was because of who was my kid was and not because of anything magical I had done.

And I had come to discover that it would all change, very suddenly.

You see, around 6 months, things changed. What I know now and understand to be the development of object permanence and my baby becoming hyper vigilant, I did not know then. All I knew is that my child screamed in my arms, for every nap and bedtime before falling asleep. Sometimes over an hour. And trust me when I say, nothing, nothing, made me feel more helpless than to have my son screaming in my arms and me trying every. possible. thing. to get him to sleep and to comfort him without luck. I felt like a complete and utter failure time and time again. These crying sessions would routinely last for over an hour before he fell asleep. I’d hold him, he’d cry, he’d act like he’d want me to put him down, I put him down, he’d cry and act like he wanted me to pick him up. It was torturous.

I remember one time – to tell this story I have to back things up a little. When I was in college, I was heavily involved in my church then and after we got married, Nick became heavily involved too. Because we were often involved in the music and the AV, we were usually there like an hour before church. And one time, Dominic would just not stop crying. People were suggesting things to me and I was trying them, but none of them were working. I tried feeding him, but he wasn’t having it. I tried rocking him. I tried everything until eventually, he fell asleep. That crying lasted for over an hour and (hopefully) no one else remembers it, but I felt completely mortified. And broken. What was wrong with me that I couldn’t get my child to stop crying? I felt I had failed as a mother. I handed the sleeping Dominic to Nick and even though church was going on, I slipped out the back and sat on the back steps crying because I felt so defeated. What kind of mother wasn’t a comfort to her crying child?

I turned to the attachment parenting groups and resources I had come to believe would help me and I got not a lot of great answers.

It’s just a phase – wait it out. Well, I tried this but I found myself being utterly crushed over and over again by the fact that he would just cry so much in my arms. My little boy who had been the happiest baby now seemed beyond miserable.

Try co-sleeping. And even though it went against everything I believed in (even though I was AP, we did not co-sleep because I did have concerns about its safety), we tried it. He only slept marginally better and I slept absolutely terrible. I move around a lot in my sleep, but with the awareness of the fact that there’s a baby there, I felt unable to move and I just couldn’t sleep that way. Plus, it didn’t prevent the long cry fests before he fell asleep, just helped with a few of the night wakings.

It’s teeth. But despite giving him medicine that was supposed to help with teething, nothing changed. (And I have since learned that teething is probably not as painful as we think.)

I couldn’t handle this anymore. Finally, in desperation, I said, well, if he’s going to cry anyway, I may as well try sleep training him. I couldn’t handle those feelings anymore. I turned to one of the only people at the time who I knew who had done some sleep training. She told me about “Ferberizing,” which is what they had done and I thought, okay, let’s try this.

I’m not going to lie, it was terrible listening to my son cry. All I could think was everything that attachment parenting had fed me. How I was ruining my son and how he was never going to be attached to me.

But when he finally fell asleep, I was so relieved. And, he had cried less time in the sleep training before falling asleep than he had in my arms! On the very first night!

And what’s more than that, my grumpy boy, had turned into a happy boy again. While I had worried that he was teething, he was actually just overtired. Once he was getting proper sleep again, his mood shifted back to the happy kid he had once been. I was relieved. But I still struggled with residual guilt for a long time. I worried that I would see the signs or something when he was older.

Well, he’s older now and I see no signs.

Now, I’ve had this post on my list of post ideas for a long time. I was too chicken to write about it. I was worried that I would get mean or negative comments, like the ones that people have said to me before. Because people have said deeply hurtful things to me about the fact that I sleep trained my kids. And those words will probably stick with me forever.

Because you all love my selfies so much - our sleep training story and my wonderful friend Alexis' book Precious Little SleepBut, I would be remiss if I didn’t talk about a new book that just came out that my friend Alexis Dubief wrote. I got to know Alexis through her online community based off her website Precious Little Sleep. I became an admin and because of that, I got to know Alexis not just as an awesome human being, but as a friend. I have watched her put blood, sweat, and tears into this amazing book which I wish was the baby sleep guide that was around when I was a kid. Precious Little Sleep is a resource for you whether or not you want to sleep train, as Alexis has really worked hard to put a lot of research backed solid options into this book and it’s funny. You can’t beat that. So, check it out! I was not paid for that opinion, by the way. Alexis doesn’t even know I’m doing this. I just believe in her and her book so much that I wanted to share it with you.

Anyways, that story was really the beginning of the end to attachment parenting for me. I hope you recognize how hard it is for me to come out and share this story. I think I have two really wonderful and amazing kids. I don’t regret sleep training and I am, in fact, glad to have done it. That’s my sleep training story.

What is one thing you said you would never do when you started parenting that you did and it turned out to be something good for you? 

The Importance of Scientific Literacy

I think most people would agree that literacy – knowing how to read and write – is important. But, I think there is less agreement/acknowledgment/awareness that scientific literacy is also important.

Scientific Literacy is important - and helped us go to the moon! What is scientific literacy? Well, I could tell you my own definition, but I rather like this one:

Scientific literacy is the knowledge and understanding of scientific concepts and processes required for personal decision making, participation in civic and cultural affairs, and economic productivity. It also includes specific types of abilities. . . . .

Scientific literacy means that a person can ask, find, or determine answers to questions derived from curiosity about everyday experiences. It means that a person has the ability to describe, explain, and predict natural phenomena. Scientific literacy entails being able to read with understanding articles about science in the popular press and to engage in social conversation about the validity of the conclusions. Scientific literacy implies that a person can identify scientific issues underlying national and local decisions and express positions that are scientifically and technologically informed. A literate citizen should be able to evaluate the quality of scientific information on the basis of its source and the methods used to generate it. Scientific literacy also implies the capacity to pose and evaluate arguments based on evidence and to apply conclusions from such arguments appropriately.

Individuals will display their scientific literacy in different ways, such as appropriately using technical terms, or applying scientific concepts and processes. And individuals often will have differences in literacy in different domains, such as more understanding of life-science concepts and words, and less understanding of physical-science concepts and words.

Scientific literacy has different degrees and forms; it expands and deepens over a lifetime, not just during the years in school. –National Science Education Standards (1996)

Is it worth it to buy organic? Can an amber necklace really be an effective pain reliever? Does that politician know what he’s talking about? Are microwaves safe? Is it a good idea for our community to get involved in? What does the data say?

Because don’t get me wrong – while data is not the be all and end all of everything – it can certainly help us to make informed decisions. In this day and age, literally, anyone can put anything on the internet. I, myself, have been putting things on the internet since I was 12 (man, that’s almost 15 years of internetting!). But, you can’t treat all sources equally. Some sites are more reputable than others and understanding how science works or knowing to look for people to cite their sources can help you distinguish between credible ideas and not-so-credible ideas. Along with that, the scientific literacy definition mentions “understanding articles about science in the popular press.” This is very important, in my opinion, because often times the popular press picks something up and runs with it in a way that’s not actually factually accurate. As it says in the next line, understanding this science we see in the media will allow us “to engage in social conversation about” it. To talk and discuss like intelligent people.

The “capacity to pose and evaluate arguments based on evidence” is another important factor. Arguments that are just opinion, they can go round and round, but I feel the way that we can have intelligent conversations is not just to think about our opinion, but to really dig deeper and get behind the why of things.

To me, it’s important to raise my kids to be scientifically literate – and it’s important for myself too. I used to think I hated science. However, now that I’m older, I’ve come to realize what an important tool science can be. How it can be one tool in my toolbox. And just how neat and cool science is. I don’t think science is the be all and end all, but it has offered us many important things. Knowing how germs work lead to handwashing which lead to a decreased rate of mortality, for an example. Vaccines for another example. How to clean our water from dangerous pathogens, for another example. Science allowed us to go to the moon! Science is not perfect, but it has allowed us to make many advancements. I think that being scientifically literate can be very useful as well as allow you to be a good citizen.

Two days ago, I wrote about chemicals and a long time ago, I wrote about evaluating scientific studies. But, beyond those two links, for further reading/additional resources, I recommend:

As my little science obsessed boy reads a book about storms nearby, I am reminded that he still thinks science is cool. I am also reminded that it is up to me to give him the tools that will allow him to grow up into a scientifically literate adult. I take this job, like all my jobs in raising kids, seriously.

Do you feel you are scientifically literate? Do you feel this is an important area to keep growing in? Do you feel this is an important skill to teach to our children? 

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