Reflections on Life and Blogging

I started blogging a long, long time ago. I think when I was a freshman in college. Maybe before that, I don’t quite remember. My first blog was titled (I think) “College in a Suitcase” after my kitchen in a suitcase, which was a (random) collection of pots and pans in a suitcase that I sometimes brought places where I might need them. This transformed several times, the title changed, I moved from Blogger to WordPress (best decision I could have made in terms of blogging) until I landed here. And I think I’m here to stay for the indefinite future.

I can’t ever really explain why blogging appealed to me – I don’t even remember what made me want to start a blog. But the writing, the sharing, the thrill that I get from other people reading – I love those things. I have a lot I want to say and sometimes having a blog saves me from offloading it on poor, unsuspecting family members, friends, and the general public. In the beginning, I never used to write a lot about my daily life, which is what made my blogging different from just keeping an ordinary journal. I’d write about cool things I found or politics I wanted to talk about or issues that were important to me. My life was too boring to write about. But now, I write more about my life, because I want to show who I am. I want to show who my family is. I want to be more than just another talking head.

Life, Love and Dirty Diapers was the name that got the most votes when I took a poll on my old blog. But it’s also a name that fits me, which is why I put it on there. It’s sort of along the lines of the good, the bad, and the ugly. I want to talk about reality the way it is – that’s life. I want to share the beautiful and the things I love and the people I love – that’s love. And I don’t want to sugarcoat things either – that’s the dirty diapers side of things. It’s saying that sometimes, the most wonderful part of life has things that are less than pleasant that you have to deal with. Plus, in part, it’s just the reality of things. I have a life, I have lots of love, and I definitely change a lot of dirty diapers. I’m sure this won’t be forever, but when we are finally, for sure, done having kids I’ll have to change the title. Maybe it will be something like “Life, Love and Teenagers” hahaha, who knows?

It’s been interesting for sure to see how my space has evolved over time. I like it just fine the way it is now. It feels like, to me, the perfect blend of my personality – fun stuff and deep stuff, stuff that matters and stuff just to help you relax at the end of a long day.

I really, really love to blog. I stay home with Dominic and it could be easy to let my identity get all wrapped up in that. But in some way, blogging and writing give me a bit of my own identity, which is great. It’s my space to talk about whatever it wants and sometimes that involves parenting things – because I can never really separate myself wholly from that role, nor do I want to – but other times I don’t have to mention it. I love Dominic, but I never want to define my life by him. If who he becomes and his successes (and failures) have to define mean individual, my own person, I’m in big trouble. Because not only would that put undue pressure on him and put my dreams for him on him, instead of his dreams, but then what happens to me if he doesn’t grow up the way I expect him too? I’ve written here about how parents shouldn’t be held wholly responsible for how their kids turn out, because kids have free which, which conversely means that I can’t let my identity be defined by someone who can decide to do whatever he wants to do, because that is just a recipe for disaster. My identity needs to be defined by Christ and who I am in Him, first and foremost, but then also by me and what I like to do and who I am. I am a mom, but I am not just a mom. It may be my life, but I am a person independent outside of being a mom.

In November, I really loved getting into blogging every day with the NaBloPoMo challenge, and it has since spurred me on, not to blog every day (but pretty darn close). I am hoping that in 2014 I can keep up blogging with regularity. I’d also like to grow my community and interact more with readers! Speaking of which, please send me any topic suggestions you might have! I’d love to hear them and I’d love to blog about them. I know I say this a lot, and it’s not because I don’t have ideas (I possibly have more ideas than I might be able to blog about in my lifetime) but because a blog isn’t meant to be static. If I wanted it to be that way, I’d never publish or share. I want to write content that you want to read, which is why I would love to have your suggestions.

2014 is going to be a great year, I think. I’m excited for it and excited to see what it brings.

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