A Wife of Noble Character

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10

What kind of wife you are matters. I think one of the biggest lies that our culture has bought into is that marriage is all about love but at the end of the day, you are still two people who should do what makes them happy and should seek to put their own interests first.

But marriage is more than that – marriage is bigger than that. Because love is a choice and not merely a feeling. Marriage takes hard work because it is not merely based on feelings, but it is based on commitment.

Which is why the kind of wife you are matters. That is why the wife of noble character is so valuable. A wife of noble charter is more valuable than any money could ever hope to be.

Why? Because for one thing, a wife reflects on her husband. For better, for worse, that is the way it is. If you are extremely critical of your husband in public, not only does it make your husband feel awful, but people wonder why your husband married you and what you are like at home if you are already so awful in public.

And it’s not just that, but if you are a wife of noble character, it spells good things for your relationship. If you practice patience and understanding, gentleness and self-control, and so on, your relationship will be a lot better. Now this isn’t to say it will be perfect because relationships are a two way street and you could be perfect in every way and the other person still be awful, but if you can meet that with peace and patience, it will make a difference. Maybe not in the way you expect, but at the very least, I think in your heart.

And in some ways, I like this verse for what it doesn’t say. It doesn’t say a perfect wife. It doesn’t say a wife with exceptional housekeeping skills. It doesn’t say a wife who is also a master chef. It says a wife of noble character. At the end of the day is it wrong to be all those other things? No, but I take comfort in the fact that it’s much higher up on the list to have noble character than it is any of those other things. I’d rather be a wife of noble character than a Pinterest perfect wife. And that’s what I strive for.

I can never change other people – it’s taken me a long time to know and understand this and work on it. But I can always seek to improve myself. That’s why I’m spending time, taking time, to always strive to be that wife of noble character. These are just some of my thoughts on it.

What does being a wife of noble character mean to you?

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