To the Mom Who Feels Like She’s Failed

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To the mom who feels like she’s failed,

I don’t know what it was this time. Maybe it was the fact that your toddler refused the dinner you made. Or you can’t get your baby to stop crying. Or your teenager made a big mistake. Or your kid just will. not. listen. Or maybe it’s that the housework always seems overwhelming and never-ending.

Or maybe it’s all of the above. Or something entirely different. Whatever it is, I know the feeling.

The feeling that you are a failure. That it’s all your fault. That if you had just done x, y, and z, things would be different. That little voice that condemns and says you’re to blame.

But I’m here to tell you that you are not a failure. You are a good mom. I know you are trying your hardest. I know you are doing your best. You are a beautiful, loved child of God. And He made you an amazing person.

You know what I want you to do? I want you to go look at your child. Because they still love you. No matter what you’ve done. You are their mama and they will always love you. Always.

So hold your head up, mama. You are doing better than you think. And tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow is a new chance. Let go of the self-doubt and the self-criticism and the insecurity and figure out away to thrive.

Because what I’ve learned from my experience is that I can either wallow in the feelings of failure or I can say, that thing – whatever the failure that I feel happened – does not define me. My whole existence of parenting is not summed up in whatever happened. I am not a failure.

And neither are you.


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